How you ask the question shapes the answer.

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Our questions and lines of enquiry directly shape the answers we get, were we arrive at and what is (and isn’t) uncovered. Sometimes just changing the question directly and unexpectedly changes the answer we get.

For example “why don’t you ever talk to me about what’s going on?” will lead to a certain answer where as “am I doing something that is getting in the way of us talking openly about what’s happening for you?” will lead to another answer. As will “I’d really like to talk about what is happening for you, and share what is happening for me — if you would be open to that?” Etc etc etc